One of my favorite shows of all time is "Sex And The City". This week, my life paralleled eerily close to the episode in which Berger breaks up with Carrie via a Post-It note. I guess I should feel a little better than Carrie did, because at least mine was done via an e-mail...at least he utilized technology to commit the cowardly act.
I can certainly understand the "Dear John" and "Dear Jane" letters of long distance wartime correspondence, but geez, if you are anywhere within a 50 mile radius there should be NO excuse for not sitting down face to face and talking it through. If the relationship had any value to it at all, then it deserves that in the very least, just to honor each other's feelings.
But no. In the electronic age, we no longer have to face our fears, we can have online dating, a "virtual" relationship, cybersex, and break up electronically without ever having to have human contact. Berger had to at least make the effort to pick up a pen, write his message, and stick the Post-It note on Carrie's computer screen. In an e-mail breakup, there's only typing a few words and clicking "Send". A neat and tidy way to break a heart without all of that emotional muss 'n fuss that gets in the way.
I will be 40 in a couple of months. I've often thought that my age group straddles the line between the ways of our parent's generation and before, and this whole new age of going about our lives. Thirty years ago, we didn't have the conveniences that can keep a person from having human interaction for days on end. I don't think the way technology is being used in the relationship arena is a good thing. For today, I long for the former days where you had to look into each other's sad, angry, tearful eyes and say what you have to say...and see the consequences of your words and actions first hand.