Monday, December 11, 2006

Another One Bites The Dust

Another evangelical pastor has stepped down from his job because he was secretly engaging in extramarital gay sex.

A couple of thoughts from somebody who has been where his wife is right now.

1) Guys, if you are engaging in risky activity and then going home & having sex with your wife, STOP IT! You are putting an innocent person's health, well being, and possibly life in danger! Furthermore, if you have children and you're putting their mother's health, well being, and possibly life in danger, what the hell do you think that's going to do to your kids in the long run?
It isn't all about you!

2) If you are a pastor or other leader in ministry who is out there preaching hate against homosexuals and then secretly partaking of the fruit yourself, STOP IT! Do you really think being a hypocritical hate-monger is what Jesus had in mind for his followers? What about the hurt you are going to cause your family, congregation, and community when they finally realize what a liar you are?
It isn't all about you!

3) If you are a counselor, pastor, politician, et al, who thinks it is their place to indoctrinate the world of your "expert" opinion on the psychology of someone who is gay, STOP IT! I have lived through countless friends and the very father of my child trying to change what is in the fiber of their being because they had it pounded into their heads from the time they were a child that what they were feeling was a sin, abnormal, and wrong. What about the sheer agony you have caused these children of God to go through all because of your personal agenda?
It isn't all about you!

4) Even IF on Judgment Day we were to find out that homosexuality was indeed an "abomination" to the Lord, do you think it is any more so than your hate-filled, pain-inducing abominable words and actions? What business is it of yours? In the end we are all equal in God's eyes.

It isn't all about you!


John H said...

Wow, Ginger....I almost don't know what to say. You are a very special person and I'm so sorry you had to go through that, and then kind of have to re-live that when these hypocrites come out of the closet.

From a Christian perspective, one of the big problems in these developing mega-churches is that so often they are built around a cult of personality. That puts a LOT of pressure on the center of that attraction. I'm sure that many of those leaders have foibles and problems that they feel they can't reveal lest they be deposed of their power.

Since these guys (mostly guys) are human (well, maybe some of them aren't exactly human..i've seen ministers on cable that I'm pretty sure are aliens - the x-file type aliens), then they are fallible.

What a healthier world it would be if we admitted who we are and quit trying to pretend.

hugs to you and your adorable daughter.

great post, Ginger.

sista smiff said...

I agree, except all evangelicals don't preach hatred against homosexuals.

Ginger said...

John, thank you for your kind words.

Sista, of course they don't all preach hatred...hence the reason I used the word "If".

Malia said...

You go girl!

Anonymous said...

Geege... I am so sorry you had to go through that.

You are the best!

B-Dub said...

Wow, that is a story I would be very interested to hear more about one day. But, purely for curiosity sake. So if it is difficult to talk about and you wouldn't want to rehash it, I understand.

I think your point is right on the money. It's not about being perfect, it's about being human and admiting it.

Ivy, the Great and Powerful said...

That's EXACTLY right! Preach on, girl!!

Cookie said...

Oh Ginger, thank you for sharing that with all of us. You are indeed a very special person and I appreciate you and your candid discussion more than you will ever know.


Jamie said...


I saw this earlier this week and I am late to comment, but I appreciate you sharing your thoughts from someone who has been through this. WOW...what an ordeal. It is NOT all about them. And we are all equal before God. Amen.

Anthony said...

Ginger, I know how hard that was for you, and I am so proud of you. As we have talked before, no I don't agree with that lifestyle, but one of the things you said realy rings home, who are we to judge, " for we have all sinned and come short of the Glory of God"

Anonymous said...

yeah rock on!